Pink&Blue
This week I
wanted to write about something less serious than the last time, namely music.
But about an hour ago I came across a video on Youtube that made me change my
mind. I’m going to be quite serious again. Let’s talk about stereotypes and
gender.
While I was listening to music on Youtube, a video called “Pink&Blue” appeared in my page (I'm going to add a link to it under the post. However, the strong language and maybe for someone images included there may be controversial, so I don't want to force you to watch it). I watched it and that reminded me of what my 12-year-old cousin
said couple of weeks ago. She is hitting puberty and starts to think more about
her image and appearance. And what she said was: I like to wear black and blue
things and girls say I’m weird. She’s considered “weird” because she doesn’t
wear make up at the age of 12 and just simply doesn’t like pink colour. Then
she added: Why is only pink a girl’s colour? Am I not a girl if I like black accessories?”.
Not honey, that is what society makes you think.
I'm at that
awkward age where half of my friends are getting married and having babies and
the other half are too drunk to type a comprehensible message on their phones. I
don’t really focus on social media and when I get on Facebook it is probably
because I need to check if my study group uploaded something important for
classes. But I have days when I involuntary scroll down the Facebook page and I
get to see a lot of photos of babies. Yes, my friends have babies while I still
consider myself a baby. But that’s not the topic of this monologue. If the baby
on a photo happens to be the girl, they are usually dressed all in pink or
violet, when they are boys – blue. “It’s a boy!” says the description under the
photo of proud pregnant woman holding a pair of blue socks and blue balloons. Why
only blue? Is it the only way to determine the sex of your baby? Choosing pink
for girls and blue for boys in such an early age doesn’t seem to really matter.
And I agree, that may not be the biggest problem. Not at that moment. The real
issue comes a little bit later.
While a
young lady or young gentlemen is growing, they tend to hear a lot of things
related to their gender. “Why are you playing with dolls, Ryan? Those are for
girls!”, “You’re a girl, you need to look pretty and behave like a lady”.
Crying is not for boys, that makes them weak. Girls shouldn’t climb trees and
cut their hair. Boys can’t show their emotions and be sensitive. Girls should
learn to take care of a baby because they will sooner or later become a mother.
Well, there it is. Not every girl will be a mother, not every boy needs to be
tough and strong. People are different. That sentence seems to be obvious and
yet the society still divide us in half. Those things are for girls, the others
for boys. How is that we consider ourselves a highly developed society, the
smartest organisms that live on Earth and we still can’t accept that simple
fact. Everyone is different and the length of their hair or the way they dress
don’t define their gender nor who they really are.
I personally
learned about the issue I’m writing about few times. As long as I remember my
hair was long. And after I came back
from United States, the condition of my hair was just terrible. So I decided to
cut them short. First of all, to give them a new lease of life, and also because
I wanted to try something new with my look. And shortly after that I started to
hear questions like: “Did you cut them because you want to look like a boy?”, “Are
you a lesbian? That’s your manifesto?”, “Shouldn’t girls at your age have long
hair?”. So with short hair I automatically look like a boy. In the eyes of the
society a simple change of hairstyle made me gay and not girly enough for my age.
I’m sorry I wanted to try something new. And then I started to think about
other situations like that. When I was around 14, I wanted to be a pilot. “Pilots
are men, that’s not a job for girls. You can be… I don’t know, a stewardess?”.
That’s what I heard from boys and some adults. I’m lucky to have a wonderful,
open-minded mother so whatever idea I came up with, she supported me. But why
do kid even need to hear that kind of stuff? It shouldn’t be a thing.
So, at the
end, I want to say again: not only a gender defines you as a human being. You
don’t need to act in the way people expect you to just because you’re a boy or
a girl. You don’t need to be ashamed of your feelings, your taste, your
interests just because they don’t fit in the stereotype. Be yourself so that
you can be happy.
Pink&Blue by Jake Dypka and Hollie McNish
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